March wrap-up

Hi guys! How are you all doing? I hope this post finds you well. March is almost ending, and I’m sure some of you are pumped for the next month. Was March a busy month for you? To be honest, it was not for me. However, I want to highlight a few lessons I’ve learned this month, both as a mark of my growth and as a precursor of more lessons to come. Let’s begin!

1. Doubt emotions

My therapist and I did an exercise where she would mention scenarios and I would share my automatic thoughts, and most of the scenarios she gave made me react negatively. The scenarios were not stressful: one is being invited to a party, another is a promotion at work, etc. However, I immediately reacted to these scenarios with anxiety. I don’t want to go to the party because I get spooked easily; I don’t want the promotion because it means more responsibilities. This made me doubt what I feel about a lot of things. So I’ve come to learn not to trust my emotions easily, and always take what I feel with a grain of salt, as they may not be healthy reactions at all.

2. Study discipline

I’m not the most disciplined person. I find myself quitting when things get hard or I work too hard that I burn out. For example, I’ve quit studying JavaScript when it became too difficult for me to understand. I got lost in the loops and never came back. I once lost 25 pounds in four months for exercising 6 times a week and doing the Paleo diet – both unsustainable activities. I burned out after four months, as my body couldn’t handle not consuming carbohydrates. I don’t know how to keep things balanced, and for me to do so, I have to learn how to discipline myself. That’s another difficult thing to do though, as I actually have to understand how to be disciplined; hence, I have to study it. Thank God for this article; I’m sure it will help me achieve my goal.

3. Be kind to the parents

There are days when I make my parents doubt my love for them. I am not the easiest person to be with, thanks to my mental illness, and I’ve, in many ways, hurt them when it was not my intention. And now that I’m planning to move out and live independently, it will highlight all the good things they’ve done for me that I carelessly pushed away. I have to learn to be kinder to them; they’re the best people I got.

4. Never look at failure as an ending

When I fail at something, I automatically assume that it’s not meant for me. This made me quit and as a result, I am not skilled at a lot of things. I find this behavior, which I discovered recently, a baffling case. After all, as a friend, I’d be the first person to tell you that failure doesn’t mean it’s the end, and that failure shouldn’t make you quit. Why can’t I follow the advice I would often give to my friends? I have to practice liking failing so that I don’t view it as a negative trait.

5. Keep going, just keep going

I mentioned in this post how I often do not fight for the things I want. I get scared easily. But if it’s one lesson I’ve learned this month, it’s to keep going, no matter how difficult things become. I have to commit. That’s a hard thing, I know, but I have to do it.

How about you guys? What are the lessons you learned this month? I hope March was good to you as enlightening as it was for me.

Best,
J

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